Many of us grew up to believe that words don’t affect us. But in the age of social media, the world’s view on that old adage has changed. Words do hold power in the minds of children, adolescents and adults alike, and as children settle into the school year, we wanted to bring a little attention to the dangers of bullying.

Even though our communities provide “bully-free” zones, intervention training and prevention resources to deter this behavior, we continue to witness this humiliating treatment of other humans. In the past, bullying was considered part of playground banter, but now we find it on college campuses and even in the workplace. Instead of turning heads and dismissing an incident as “teasing or child’s play,” here are a few tips to help you be proactive in the fight against the bullies in our lives.

Pay attention. Listen and watch for signs of mistreatment. This may include teasing, name-calling, disrespectful comments, undermining someone’s work or abilities or even purposefully withholding information needed to perform a job.

As a potential victim, you may find that you are suffering even when you are away from the situation. You may have trouble sleeping, feel nauseous or even feel scared to go back to work or school.

Don’t ignore it. If you feel you or loved one is being singled out or treated unfairly, don’t assume it is harmless teasing. If someone feels threatened in any way, take it seriously. People have different levels of coping; what may be considered teasing to one person may be devastating to another.

Tell the bully to stop. Use a calm voice and say something like, “Please stop talking” or “please let me walk to the bus.” Put your hands up in the air between you and the bully. This creates a barrier and provides a visible sign to the bully that you mean business.

Get witnesses. If you or a loved one is being bullied, ask someone you can trust to be a bystander and witness the next attack. Bullying tends to happen at specific locations and times, so have your “witness” linger in the area where the attacks typically happen.

If someone is being bullied, chances are they aren’t the only victim. With the correct documentation and several witnesses, victims can help each other approach the situation.  

Remain calm. Don’t retaliate, and never escalate the bullying. Shouting and yelling back at a bully can make the situation worse. Use a reasonable yet stern voice when speaking to the attacker.

Prepare your evidence and be certain you are calm before approaching the school office or boss about an attack. Remaining professional will help you present a better case for yourself.

Remember to always take a stand. Be the voice for those who cannot, or those who are afraid to speak. Everyone has the right to a safe and happy life – free from bullying.